Safety, Support, and Steps:A Parent’s Guide to Navigating Daycare when Experiencing Domestic Violence

As October comes to a close, we pause to reflect on the impact of domestic violence (DV) and reaffirm our commitment to the well-being of the children in our care and their families.

Domestic violence touches families in every community. In Illinois, DV incidents affect adults and children across diverse backgrounds. Statistics highlight the ongoing need for awareness, early intervention, and accessible resources. Children exposed to DV can face emotional, behavioral, and developmental challenges, underscoring the importance of a supportive environment at home and in daycare settings.

 If you are navigating DV while caring for your child enrolled in daycare, consider these practical steps:

·      Safety first:  If you are in immediate danger, contact local emergency services. Create a safety plan that includes a safe place, trusted contacts, and a secure routine.

·      Disclose thoughtfully:  Share information with your daycare provider at a level you’re comfortable with. Consider providing a written plan that outlines who is allowed to pick up your child, emergency contacts, and any safety concerns.

·      Documentation: Keep records of incidents that may affect your child’s well-being (absences, changes in mood, behavior). This can help caregivers support your child effectively.

·      Open communication: Schedule a meeting with the daycare director or lead teacher to discuss routines, emotional support for your child, and any accommodations that may be needed.

·      Accessible resources: Ask about on-site supports and referrals to DV services. If you need help finding resources, request information from the daycare staff or local DV organizations.

·      Self-care and support: Caring for yourself supports your child. Connect with trusted friends, family, or DV advocates who can assist with safety planning and emotional support.

If you or someone you know is seeking help, these local resources can provide support, advocacy, and crisis services:

·      DOVE, Inc.: A leading domestic violence advocacy organization in the area offering crisis intervention, safety planning, counseling, and legal advocacy.  To learn more, visit https://www.doveinc.org

·      Homeward Bound: Local shelter and support services focusing on safety for survivors and their families, including housing assistance and crisis intervention.  Visit https://www.homewardbound.org for additional information.

If you are unsure where to start, a trusted daycare provider, school counselor, or primary care professional can often help connect you with these and other local services.

October is a powerful reminder that domestic violence affects families daily. By enhancing safety planning, fostering compassionate communication, and connecting families to trained DV resources, we can support children’s well-being and help parents navigate difficult circumstances with dignity and strength. If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, contact local emergency services. For confidential help, reach out to the resources above or your local DV hotline 217-423-2238.